Old Brain's Party Plan

Dad was quite chatty this morning. While i was feeding him breakfast he quietly said "Old Brain" I'm not sure what exactly that meant but he nodded and raised an eyebrow very seriously, as if it was something wise i should take note of. During the morning, when Mum was out collecting another prescription and i was sitting here dealing with work emails, Dad suddenly said "We'll have to make sure someone is responsible for drinks" I thought 'eh?' and asked which drinks. Dad told me we were having a party on Saturday and my brother should be in charge of the drinks. This was news to me (and Mum!) He hasn't said anything since that, but has just been sitting back in bed staring into nothingness. That 'party' conversation is the nearest any of us has got to having a conversation with Dad in weeks, so although it was meaningless really, it was nice. He has had a few moments of absence today where he has stared straight through me while i spoke to him and waved in front of him. I've also noticed that his right hand has jerked around on two separate occasions, like a local seizure of the hand alone and only lasting 10 seconds. It was especially obvious as his hand was flapping against today's newspaper. He is snoozing now. Drug-wise, yesterday we increased Dad's dose of morphine from three 5ml teaspoons a day to four teaspoons. He seems to be in more pain today again, so i'm not sure at what rate we should increase it, but the community nurse who is coming tomorrow will advise us. Dad is still on 8mg of dexamethasone daily.

Busted

There was a bit of night-time activity last night. Mum told me that Dad sat upright in the middle of the night waking her; he explained he was checking the carpet was ok. She later got up to go to the loo but hurried back as Dad started shouting and he said quite seriously "Be careful the ground doesn't swallow you up" Dad is clearly much less well than he was a fortnight ago. He seems happy enough during the day reading the paper or listening to the radio in bed, but is alert enough to be a bit bored upstairs and mentions coming downstairs. Currently though we are worried that if we do manage to get him dressed and downstairs safely we may not manage to get him back upstairs. Dad has been quite chatty today. When he wants to talk i make sure i let him finish saying whatever he has to say. His voice is weak so you must listen carefully and he doesn't often make sense. Sometimes i tell him i don't understand and at other times i worry he will catch me out if i try to make a sensible response to something crazy he has said. This evening he gave me a funny look at just such an occasion and when i asked him why he was giving me that look he replied with a raised eyebrow "i think you are talking in riddles" Hmmm... that's me busted!

Loose connections

Today has been a blur of phone calls in between feeding Dad. I got a few calls from work, since i'm working from home, but we also had calls from the Macmillan nurse, as well as a regional nurse, that the Macmillan nurse has mobilised. Then a continuing care nurse called who will organise daily visits from even more nurses... I told Dad earlier that he ought to move over and make room for me as i'm getting confused too. A hospital bed is being provided for Dad which will make it possible for us to raise him to a sitting position at the touch of a button. On seeing the house the nurse has suggested setting Dad up down in the sitting room so that he can feel involved in things, rather than shut away Mrs Rochester-style. I think he has felt a bit left out today as the neighbour popped around with some more cakes and my brother came for the night. Both the neighbour and my brother have spent time with Dad, but it's not the same. Hearing talk and laughter downstairs and not being able to join in must be miserable. This afternoon Mum was having a drink and i was wrangling some work emails when we heard a floorboard creak above us. We both froze wondering if Dad was on the move and there was suddenly an almighty thud. We both hurtled up the stairs and found Dad on the floor by the bed. He had fallen over trying to get to the bathroom. He doesn't seem to have hurt himself at all and i helped him to the bathroom, then back to bed, with strict instructions Not to try to get up on his own. Recently we have noticed him sitting strangely positioned in bed occasionally, so suspect he has tried to do this before. Mum is now barricading him and her into their bedroom with a chair before she goes to bed at night to ensure he cannot end up falling down the stairs in the middle of the night.
Keeping us on our toes, Dad has a new code for us to crack. He kept saying to us each today that he wants to connect something. He has mentioned the television, the radio and making tea. He obviously wants something as he has said almost the same thing to each of us at different times during the day. I find this really upsetting as i want to help him but just can't understand or even guess what he wants.
This evening, my brother and i managed to groom Mum's elderly, vicious and alzheimers-esque cat. She has trouble grooming herself now that she's 21 and a half, so develops big mats in her fur. Anyway between us we managed to cut and brush most of the mats out and remarkably without blood-loss on either side!