A day of visitors but few words

Mum's cantankerous old cat excelled herself this morning by vomiting all over the lounge moments ahead of visitors arriving. She has been in disgrace all day since. Dad has been almost mute today. These visitors were a work friend of Dad's and his wife and although Dad communicated with hand-grabs, looks and eyebrows he didn't actually say a word. As soon as they left i said to Dad "It was nice to see them again wasn't it Dad?" Of course, it was at that point that Dad spoke and said "Yes". The Macmillan nurse came during the afternoon and couldn't really evaluate the effectiveness of the patch we put on Dad yesterday. She said it was better to reconsider the dose when we replace the patch (which will be Thursday) so we have seen it at its most effective. We are continuing with the oramorph too. I asked her if Dad is in the sort of condition that she would expect at this stage from her experience of melanoma (and other cancer) patients and she said he is. Dad's head is still fixed looking to the left. He doesn't seem in pain when he is still but when the nurses move him to wash him and change his pyjamas he makes such a face it looks like he is in agony. I find it really hard to see him like that, but the Macmillan nurse said not to worry that he is in a lot of pain as it is quite likely also an expression of displeasure at being moved around and messed with. He has never been a very touchy-feely person, so although that makes sense, it still worries us. He only does it when his head and neck are moved and the only other thing he said today was "Ouch!" when moved by the nurses in the evening, so i hope the full strength of the patch comes into effect soon. Partly because of the position of Dad's head and partly because he cannot understand verbal directions anymore we are now feeding Dad liquids only and through a plastic syringe. We have been told we can continue like this as long as he can reliably swallow, which he still can. Once he can no longer swallow a line can be hooked up to give him medicine and fluids.